- Come up with something non-work / school related to look forward to. Preferably at all times. While it is wonderful to look forward to completing a manuscript, of finally defending my dissertation, I want to be able to look forward to something that is actually FUN. Suggestions of "fun" things most welcome, as when I get into a funk I seem to have a difficult time coming up with these kinds of activities.
- Cessation of feelings of guilt at asking my husband to do things for me. I am already getting better at this. For instance, I no longer feel guilty asking him to clean up after dinner because I made said dinner. Also, I've started doing school-related reading after we put Pickle to bed, so that allows me to feel even less guilty than I did before.
I think "fun" activities that you do because you want to are totally ok to add, as long as they don't start to stress you out, and as long as they do not get added to your "To do" list. To do lists should be for chores only!
Now I'm off to email our babysitter to arrange a date-night, and go for a walk in this lovely weather with the Boo (after I sell my ceiling fan).
I only feel guilty when I ask my husband to do something when I am doing nothing. It doesn't happen often, but when it does I feel a tiny bit of guilt. All others times, he is the one that should be feeling guilty:-) Happy New year and maybe I will adopt your resolution #1
ReplyDeleteI look forward to yoga once or twice a week, hiking on the weekends, and planning fun trips for vacation. Short term things and long term things. It helps on the bad days. Yes I wish I could do yoga daily, but that just doesn't work for my schedule right now.
ReplyDeleteFun- what's that again? Sorry I got nothing for you- between working full time and looking after a baby, my whole life is have to. My only suggestions would be to download a tv series and watch back to back episodes. You mentioned you lie Dexter. Have you seen every series? If nt download them.
ReplyDeleteAw! Even you can and deserve to have fun sometime!
DeleteI like both of these resolutions. Fun, hmmmm. For me, something social is the best thing kind of thing to look forward to...and if I've made plans with others, less likely to slide into time for chores, childcare, etc... Lunch with a friend/friends once a month, on a weekend, where Luca watches D so you can truly relax? Maybe a weekly date night IN with Luca, where you get take-out (no cooking or clean up required!), drink some beers, and watch a movie together?
ReplyDeleteI like both those ideas. The only issue with idea #2 is that Luca has this tendency to fall asleep on the couch any time after 8:30, so he's not always great company. I could always just kick him if he does that though. :-)
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